Should little girls play boys, the heroes of these ladies and princesses? Anne Bacus, psychologist, explains why it’s time to no longer associate with gender specific toys and games.
Tell Me What You’re Doing, I Won’t Tell You Who You Are
“Regardless of what the child is playing, the main thing is that he plays!” exclaims Anne Bacus, psychologist. It has to end with the idea that a girl plays like a girl and a boy as a boy. Toys are not gendered before about three years. Small have yet a clear conscience of their sex and play with toys that tempt them indifferently. Even if a recent American study explains that there is an innate difference between girls and boys, tells us Anne Bacus. The latter spontaneously heading to games that breathe the action and propulsion!
By three years, baby begins to focus on her gender, to feel girl or boy. He feels a certain pride in being one or the other and seeks to have the attributes, including caricatural way. “For the record, tells Anne Bacus, a little girl and a little boy with a remote control improvised a different toy: the little girl actually has a phone and the little boy a gun!” By understanding their sex and his intentions, they get into a role. Girls princesses and men of heroes? Yes, children receive messages from society and put on their costumes, different by nature but also conditioned by stereotypes.
And yet, a little boy can play with dolls and a daughter to small cars. There is nothing wrong with that and it is quite common. Parents are often concerned (wrongly) when this happens, observes Anne Bacus. Take a step back from these ‘standards ‘.
Every child plays what he wants, and manipulate the opposite sex toys is not predictive. No, a little boy playing with dolls will be not gay.
It is important to do away with stereotypes: no matter what baby plays, it doesn’t mean anything! And although it is important to provide her child with toys that reinforce it in her sex, not need to do too much and getting into clichés that reinforce inequality girl boy.
By Dint of Stereotypes, We Dig Inequality Girl/Boy
It’s a good thing to accept different applications of boys and girls, sword or wand, car or doll, explains Anne Bacus, because the boy has to receive toys that have sense and attributes defining its sex. But it’s not a passage. Marketing uses this difference to sell toys that are far from being unisex. Result we reach a clear form of inequality. No, the little girl is not good to do the dinette and the boy, to become a hero of modern times! The ads convey too many images that reduce the girl with household chores, for example, and the man to save the world. Offer such gifts to his children, too, reinforces inequality girls boys and affects children.
So, what will there be to baby?
They say yes to gifts that help them differentiate themselves and understand that they are girls or boys, but no to gifts that strengthen inequalities. To achieve this balance, it is important to detach stereotypes and why not go toward toys asexual and neutral to get model “toys for girls, toys for boys.” While respecting the demands and desires of children, provide toys that are appropriate to both sexes (scientific, sports, construction, educational toys) remains the ideal.
Thanks to Anne Bacus, psychologist and author of your child from one to three years to the Editions Marabout.